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14 years ago 0 +0 / -0 855

That has to be really hard for you, hopefully she will stay quit , WHATEVER YOU DO dont loose your good quit over this, hang in there :) Tresa
My Mileage:

My Quit Date: 8/8/2002
Smoke-Free Days: 2920
Cigarettes Not Smoked: 70,080
Amount Saved: $12,264.00
Life Gained:
Days: 383 Hrs: 11 Mins: 26 Seconds: 31

14 years ago 0 +0 / -0 90

My daughter says she has not smoked since she "tried" it about a month ago! I hope it stays that way.
My Mileage:

My Quit Date: 11/23/2009
Smoke-Free Days: 249
Cigarettes Not Smoked: 4,980
Amount Saved: $1,743.00
Life Gained:
Days: 21 Hrs: 18 Mins: 12 Seconds: 15

Quit Meter

$389,767.50

Amount Saved
Quit Meter

Days: 5594 Hours: 8

Minutes: 19 Seconds: 25

Life Gained
Quit Meter

45855

Smoke Free Days
Quit Meter

917,100

Cigarettes Not Smoked

15 years ago 0 +0 / -0 984

That's great news Jeni, you should be hugely proud of yourself! Great time for a reward?!

x T

My Mileage:

My Quit Date: 1/1/2007
Smoke-Free Days: 1289
Cigarettes Not Smoked: 29,647
Amount Saved: �8,152.93
Life Gained:
Days: 114 Hrs: 23 Mins: 17 Seconds: 38

15 years ago 0 +0 / -0 1843

Those 231 smoke free days look absolutely fabulous on you! Congratulations on a smoke free vacation! I have to agree with Kaiser on the reward! Please find a special way to reward yourself!
My Mileage:

My Quit Date: 8/20/2008
Smoke-Free Days: 691
Cigarettes Not Smoked: 27,640
Amount Saved: $6,910.00
Life Gained:
Days: 106 Hrs: 10 Mins: 29 Seconds: 17

15 years ago 0 +0 / -0 1387

Jeniwho:

you have every right to be proud. you dodged some major bullets. Now give yourself a major reward.

Kaiser

My Mileage:

My Quit Date: 7/30/2008
Smoke-Free Days: 712
Cigarettes Not Smoked: 17,800
Amount Saved: $890.00
Life Gained:
Days: 138 Hrs: 19 Mins: 40 Seconds: 40

15 years ago 0 +0 / -0 90

I have been out of town for a week which has created an additional struggle because vacation time seems to put me around more smokers and old situations in which I used to smoke. My daughter is not with me on vacation and I have had a chance to re-center myself, make it through some challenging situations and still not smoke. I know this will be a struggle for awhile, but for now I am managing all obstacles and still not smoking! I am proud of myself. Thanks for the support.

My Mileage:

My Quit Date: 11/23/2009
Smoke-Free Days: 231
Cigarettes Not Smoked: 4,620
Amount Saved: $1,617.00
Life Gained:
Days: 20 Hrs: 3 Mins: 58 Seconds: 27

Quit Meter

$389,767.50

Amount Saved
Quit Meter

Days: 5594 Hours: 8

Minutes: 19 Seconds: 25

Life Gained
Quit Meter

45855

Smoke Free Days
Quit Meter

917,100

Cigarettes Not Smoked

15 years ago 0 +0 / -0 1904

Jeni, you're in a struggle with your daughter. What would you teach her by letting her win?

My Mileage:

My Quit Date: 5/1/2009
Smoke-Free Days: 431
Cigarettes Not Smoked: 12,068
Amount Saved: $5,128.90
Life Gained:
Days: 48 Hrs: 13 Mins: 11 Seconds: 47

15 years ago 0 +0 / -0 984

Jeni I completely echo what everyone has said here. Certainly you have reasons you quit for yourself, so it's time to look long and hard at those and get your head around what's happening now. You smoking again won't get your daughter to stop. You quit in part because you wanted to be a role model in not smoking. If you started again, what kind of role model is that? Not only would you be going back to behaviour you did NOT want to model but you would in effect be saying 'when things don't go your way it's ok to give up, and harm yourself in the process'.

You are angry, hurt, upset, the works. Wrestle with those emotions but by all means find another way to deal with them. Smoking again won't change a thing for the better and I think you know that.

I am so sorry this has happened. Please pull yourself back up, whatever it takes.

x T

My Mileage:

My Quit Date: 1/1/2007
Smoke-Free Days: 1282
Cigarettes Not Smoked: 29,486
Amount Saved: �8,108.65
Life Gained:
Days: 114 Hrs: 9 Mins: 44 Seconds: 20

15 years ago 0 +0 / -0 1843

Jeni, so sorry that your daughter put you in this situation. I also have to agree with Lolly. This quit has to be all about you. You picking up a cigarette after 224 days won't make your daughter not smoke, it will only encourage her. Helping to keep your daugher from not smoking isn't controlling, its being a good parent! Post as often as you need, somebody is always around!
My Mileage:

My Quit Date: 8/20/2008
Smoke-Free Days: 684
Cigarettes Not Smoked: 27,360
Amount Saved: $6,840.00
Life Gained:
Days: 105 Hrs: 7 Mins: 17 Seconds: 15

15 years ago 0 +0 / -0 2606

Hi jeniwho,

I am sorry to hear that you are having some difficulties with your daughter. Lolly makes a few really great points, keeping a quit going for more than 7 months shows really strong work and determination. You definitely deserve a pat on the back for the hard work you have done to date. Do stay strong and keep fighting!

We are always here for you jeniwho, lean on us for support.

Samantha, Health Educator

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