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18 years ago 0 +0 / -0 3368

[quote]I guess that's why the way that you put it - about it actually being kind and loving to me to treet others with respect even when they don't deserve it really struck a cord. [/quote] It is the same concept that when we forgive someone, it does more for us than it does for them. Hope this makes sense to you as well. [quote]The other thing that i've found is that I seem far less willing to accept being treated poorly now. I am betting that i'm not alone on this one either.[/quote] You defiantly are not alone on this. I thought I had learned all I needed to about personal boundaries, only to realize I had one more lesson about them when I quit smoking. LOL! I had to, once again, reevaluate my personal boundaries. Once I did that and got comfortable in them ... I was fine with this aspect. Others may not like my new personal boundaries ... but their problem is not my problem. [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 5/12/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 102 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 3,079 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $408 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 8 [B]Hrs:[/B] 15 [B]Mins:[/B] 13 [B]Seconds:[/B] 55

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18 years ago 0 +0 / -0 8760

MistyMoon, Many quitters have reported feeling like they are on a rollercoaster of emotions. You are not alone! You need to find new coping mechanisms and outlets for your emotions. A few ideas: Exercise, keeping a journal, doing something you find fun, walking away from the situation. Keep strong, this too shall pass. Danielle _______________________ The SSC Support Team

18 years ago 0 +0 / -0 8760

MistyMoon, You're very right, smoking is an escape/avoidance behavior. You walk away until your stress levels come back down and you can deal with the problem in a calm manner. For those moments that don't allow the time, stop, take three deep breaths and then speak. (Known as thought stopping) Does that clear things up? Danielle ______________________ The SSC Support Team

18 years ago 0 +0 / -0 8760

1965, Many have asked themselves this question. Many have also experienced a low point at the 107 day mark. Know this will pass. Have you continued to reward yourself? Have your replaced smoking with something you love even more? You have 100 smoke free days under your belt! You should be proud! Why would you want to throw it all away? What about your quit is frustrating to you? Let us know, we can help! Danielle _________________________ The SSC Support Team

18 years ago 0 +0 / -0 1450

RE: getting angry My grandmother used to say, "when you get angry, count to ten." Here again is another way of saying 'take a little time' and step away so that you can 'center' yourself before returning to address the stressful matters at hand. RE: depression I went into a dark hole around the 3 weeks quit mark. I tried a variety of different solutions but what turned out to be THE BEST SOLUTION (for me) was EXERCISE. Just keep searching until you find what works best for you and by all means keep practicing newly learned coping skills. For example, the slow breathing technique takes practice (just to 'remember' to use it) AND if you don't continue to use it...you lose it. The good news is: Once you reach the otherside (and you will if you don't smoke) it's amazing how much pride you will feel because you'll know you earned it!! Plus, the health benefits mean a MUCH better quality of life. [color=blue][font=Tahoma]All the best~[/color] [img]http://img291.imageshack.us/img291/6922/n3us.gif[/img][size=3][color=blue]2[/color][/size][img]http://img133.imageshack.us/img133/2344/k6ob.gif[/img][/color] [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 8/20/2005 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 366 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 8,073 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $1830 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 34 [B]Hrs:[/B] 19 [B]Mins:[/B] 51 [B]Seconds:[/B] 18

18 years ago 0 +0 / -0 5195

1965 I have been there and am a frequent visitor. To answer your question, Is it worth it? You better believe it. It is worth every single miserable moment. I don't ever recall being as depressed in my life as I was when I quit smoking. When we quit smoking we have to develop new ways to handle all the emotions we encounter from day to day. This takes time and some adjusting to the way we look at things and the way we think about things. There are several things that have helped me get over the really depressed and angry times. Basically, it has been a work in process and I have had to keep working on it until I found what works for me. Positive inspirations, good quit buddies, this site, trying to keep a positive attitude, refusing negative thoughts and much much more go into the coping skills I have developed along this journey. You will get there as well. Keep taking one step at a time and keep your chin up. Do not give up on yourself. Smoking will not help anything. I hope this helps. [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 7/1/2005 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 416 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 8,338 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $1456 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 36 [B]Hrs:[/B] 17 [B]Mins:[/B] 45 [B]Seconds:[/B] 28

18 years ago 0 +0 / -0 989

I was depressed for a long time and wondered when oh when I would feel like myself again. Joy flew out the window. 100 days was particularly hard. Now looking back, I realize that it passed and that what was one year in the overall scheme of my life. Not that I was depressed the WHOLE year, but I really did not start feeling like myself until nearly a year had passed. One smoke will just start the withdrawal process over again. Have one only only if you want to go through all of this hell again and do not really want the freedom and health of being a non-smoker. Hang in there. I promise - it gets better! [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 4/15/2005 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 493 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 12,338 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $1725.5 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 68 [B]Hrs:[/B] 15 [B]Mins:[/B] 57 [B]Seconds:[/B] 5

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You won't be fine. You will lose your quit. Your junkie self will win. Don't listen to the junkie. Get some help instead. Feeling depressed at around 100 days is normal...hang in there! Rusty :) [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 12/13/2004 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 616 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 17,260 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $2156 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 84 [B]Hrs:[/B] 19 [B]Mins:[/B] 4 [B]Seconds:[/B] 51

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18 years ago 0 +0 / -0 1151

1965, Congrats on those 100 days! I have to agree with the others...anything you are toughing it through now IS TOTALLY WORTH IT! This thread called [url=http://www.stopsmokingcenter.net/support/viewmessages.aspx?forum=15&topic=13950]Anger and Quitting Smoking[/url] helped me a lot. My emotional stuff happened right out of the gate during the first couple months but everyone is different. You'll live through this and the person you become on the other side is nothing short of amazing! [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 8/5/2004 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 746 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 14,930 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $3357 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 55 [B]Hrs:[/B] 6 [B]Mins:[/B] 18 [B]Seconds:[/B] 46

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18 years ago 0 +0 / -0 2534

I have for sure. It will pass. Don't let it win or it will only make you more angry but in a different way. Stick with the quit, 100 days is too good to ditch. All The Best Penitent d825

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