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15 years ago 0 +0 / -0 880

sydney16

Thank you for the comments. A great deal of this quitting business is all about attitude and finding the tools within oneself to shape that attitude. Sounds to me as if you have that idea firmly planted in your mind...That is a very good thing indeed. It is hard to do, but in some way we must all come to this with the sense that it is the right thing to do and that we are not giving anything up, we are instead handing ourselves a wonderful gift. If we find the strength to continually receive that gift with a good heart, we will continue along the path to cessation.

I often run into people (and from time to time am one myself) who talk to me about fearing death. It is a very basic human uncertainty and I do not find anything unusual in it. It's not my favorite topic either, but I am often struck by the intensity of the fear in some individuals. I cannot help but think in those encounters that such grave fear leads one to horde life and try to hold on to everything with a death like grip. And in those moments I am reminded that if we do this because we fear death, we no longer have life either. In essence our fear of losing life brings death to our door as surely as if we had wished to die in the first place.

In many ways it is the same with cessation. We must seek the grace to understand that cessation does not lead to loss. We are not leaving anything behind, instead we are gaining many gifts that would otherwise be out of our reach. The alternative is to stay trapped within the addiction cycle.

stay well

nonic

My Milage:

My Quit Date: 12/25/2006
Smoke-Free Days: 1098
Cigarettes Not Smoked: 32,940
Amount Saved: $11,529.00
Life Gained:
Days: 209 Hrs: 13 Mins: 24 Seconds: 39

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$71,242.50

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Days: 1559 Hours: 19

Minutes: 14 Seconds: 16

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6785

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15 years ago 0 +0 / -0 218

my aunt who quit was also very mouring about it and was very dismissive of me quitting smoking and wouldn't stop talking about how much she craves smoking still while last time i talked to her she kept bragging about how much she loves being a non smoker...............

My Milage:

My Quit Date: 12/3/2009
Smoke-Free Days: 22
Cigarettes Not Smoked: 308
Amount Saved: $129.36
Life Gained:
Days: 1 Hrs: 10 Mins: 36 Seconds: 34

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$26,859.00

Amount Saved
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Days: 507 Hours: 15

Minutes: 16 Seconds: 57

Life Gained
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3837

Smoke Free Days
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134,295

Cigarettes Not Smoked

15 years ago 0 +0 / -0 12049

sydney,

What a great validation and good for you for staying strong and stating your case! I love your line!

"but if you come in with the attitude that you are doing something great for yourself and remind yourself of that and are happy instead of mourning it doesn't have to be as difficult really. "

Josie, Health Educator

15 years ago 0 +0 / -0 1904

Yep! You hit on the "secret" of quitting for a lot of people. You really have to think of quitting smoking in terms of what you've gained--not in terms of any losses. And yes, you really have to want to stop. Like someone (I think Hot SIO2) on this site said, You have to want to quit more than you want to smoke.

My Milage:

My Quit Date: 5/1/2009
Smoke-Free Days: 236
Cigarettes Not Smoked: 6,608
Amount Saved: $2,560.60
Life Gained:
Days: 25 Hrs: 18 Mins: 4 Seconds: 8

15 years ago 0 +0 / -0 218

=So I told too ladies in a group I attend that I quit smoking, than they asked me how at first I thought because they might want to quit too but it was because they had friends who were using the patch and begging them for a cigarettes. I told them cold turkey.they are both smokers and at one point both of them got up in the middle of the group to go smoke obviously and one of them said they are going for a smoke. Than said "oh sorry I probably shouldn't of said that in front of you, it might trigger you" I said no its ok, cause really it is ok, sometimes I think that people think that quitting smoking is this terrible thing to give up and that I so badly want one. I am not going to lie I have cravings sometimes but they pass, I mean I wouldn't quit if I really wanted to continue smoking so badly. I just kind of laugh inside. I mean of course this is just me but if you come in with the attitude that you are doing something great for yourself and remind yourself of that and are happy instead of mouring it doesnt have to be as difficult really.

I just find it kind of amusing.
My Milage:

My Quit Date: 12/3/2009
Smoke-Free Days: 20
Cigarettes Not Smoked: 280
Amount Saved: $117.60
Life Gained:
Days: 1 Hrs: 7 Mins: 24 Seconds: 53

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$26,859.00

Amount Saved
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Days: 507 Hours: 15

Minutes: 16 Seconds: 57

Life Gained
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3837

Smoke Free Days
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134,295

Cigarettes Not Smoked

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