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8 years ago 0 +0 / -0 11226

Yay! Congrats!

Writing down your thoughts when you're upset is an amazing way to process them. Very intuitive of you for doing that. It sounds like you have a strategy for dealing with conflict while you quit and beyond!

Nice job at staying strong!

Ashley, Health Educator

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8 years ago 0 +0 / -0 15

Hey!

So I was able to make it through that fight and I am happy to say I am still smoke free! Everyday produces its new challenges but I just keep taking them one day at a time. The best way I found to get through that fight was to make a list of why I am upset. I know that sounds kind of weird but I found that instead of just being mad if I layed out my thoughts it was easier for me and him to come to a resolution.

Plus it helps that we love each other and can't stay mad for too long lol!

All I can say is my choice to stay smoke free was stronger than the demons telling me to come back. I just kept telling myself that it will pass stay strong, and eventually like every craving it did.

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8 years ago 0 +0 / -0 11226

Sorry to hear about your fight. Relationship stress can be a big trigger for smoking so good for you for posting here instead of smoking! That takes a lot of strength and determination. How were you able to get through it? How are you doing now?

Ashley, Health Educator

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8 years ago 0 +0 / -0 2778

Hey WizardRae!!!

I hope you have given yourself time to lower your heart rate and think about the discussion and about your quit! I know that I had to give myself a little time-out before opening my big fat mouth when I first quit! Remember it is always a good idea to remove yourself from a situation before it evolves into something you may regret. But for now, you have time to reflect. Think about what you could have done to improve the situation and learn from this episode.

The nico-demon is going to be sitting on your shoulder for a while longer. Think about your coping strategies that you listed while going through the Program Milestones. This may help you in the future. I used deep breathing several times to help me cope. I also walked away from conversations before they got out of hand! I coming here and writing is also good therapy! I did that sooo much!

Hang in there and just remember that smoking is not the answer you are seeking! Not One Puff Ever!!! You can do this!!!

Jim

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8 years ago 0 +0 / -0 15

So my boyfriend and I just got into a huge blowout fight our first one since I quit smoking. My first instinct wasn't to run and buy a pack but the more I sit and stew the more I find myself thinking about it. I know it's my brain trying to make an excuse but how did everyone else cope with things like this? It's hard for me to focus at work because all I'm thinking about is the fight or smoking right now.

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